February Issue: Hard Truths, and Easy Lies
I’m not sure that I can do it. I don’t really know if I am good enough. What if they don’t like me, am I too awkward? I could be a better friend, if I knew what to say when my bestie is going through. I absolutely hate everything, like why do I even try?”
Have you ever said, or felt like saying the above before? I know I have. When you are on your “A” game life is fabulous. When you have an off day, week, month, or even year something happens and you begin to sink. When your stride falters, it falters because you let other people’s opinions and criticisim invade your psyche.
Not everyone is going to like you. If you accept that and move on, you do not need to worry about what other people think. You do not always have to have it together but as a black woman I must say that when you are considered marginalized even if you do not live your life according to the worlds bias; you feel pressure to be perfect. There is great pressure to go above and beyond in everything you do. Whether you are putting in work at school, at your job, in your relationship; the pressure to be perfect is heavy. The idea of “being perfect” is an easy lie. The italicized text in the beginning is another easy lie.
The hard truth is that people can only offend you when you give your consent. When you are a minority you will be held to a biased double standard because of racism but you cannot let that hard truth keep you from living your best life. I was in a class last month at my University when a young Anglo-Saxon student stated that she believed a leader is someone of “pure race.” Now please keep in mind that this is a term used by white supremacist and right winged thinkers to describe white people.
My blood boiled when the professor did not question her opinion but moved on during lecture. Black History Month is my favorite month where I get to celebrate my culture and my leaders who paved the way for me and my brothers and sisters. Dr. King, Malcolm X, Harriet Tubman, Fredrick Douglass and others were amazing leaders who were not of “pure race” and the hard truth is, people tend to believe easy lies like the one my deeply confused colleague believed. You can never let the ideals of the small minded detain you from being exemplary.
Jam 4 the Month: Stand up for Something by Andra Day feat. Common
This powerful song with a strong message talks about how we must continue the ﬁ ght for justice and there is much strength in numbers no matter how many Hard Truths and Easy Lies we may face.
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