Love is in the air and this month we are not only celebrating the history of our rich black/African culture, we are also celebrating relationships. This upcoming week we are getting ready for romantic dinners, spending money on roses and chocolates to prove to our friends, intimate partners, or family how much we care about them. But does this really show how much we care for those we love?
Have you thought about what makes the person you love feel special? Have you even paid attention to the person or people you love to see what makes them smile? These are good questions you should consider. How do we show our love to one another as Americans?
I have noticed people who live in my area are so focused on themselves they don’t have time to pay attention to others. “I” becomes the main letter I hear in so many statements where we tend to forgot others around us and their feelings.
Maybe we as people should take the time out to touch those around us, especially since we love them. Let’s learn to be effective listeners giving our undivided attention to the special people in our lives. How do we do that?
When those you love are speaking to you put your phone down and give them eye contact, open body language, and respond to them so they know that you are listening. Ask follow up questions. Questions that would encourage them to elaborate on what they are talking about. Repeat what they are saying to clarify if you may not understand.
This really can touch a person emotionally when you are able to just focus on them and what they have to say. You don’t have to always give monetary gifts to make people feel special just give them your time. You can even make something or write a letter to the person describing how you feel about them.
It does not have to be expensive. Get creative and spontaneous if that person likes spontaneity or creativity. Try to create and build healthy relationships. Communicating effectively will make these relationships healthy, as well as, honesty, and patience.
Love is not an easy thing to do so take your time and learn to understand others so love can ﬂourish and blossom to the best love in the universe. Agape love!! God’s love.
Blessings and Peace!
Happy Valentine’s Day – Monique Thompson