If you have a family member/friend who is single, elderly or one who is chronically ill, you should designate/rotate a family member to check on them frequently. If there is a person you call daily or a person who calls you daily, and you have not heard from them in two days and when you call them they do not answer—you need to follow up on their whereabouts immediately—don’t second guess—it’s better to be wrong in your assumption than sorry about your delay.
We cannot afford to ignore our neighbors; we need to develop a neighborly relationship. Therefore if they notice something strange going on at your home, they can call you at home or at work. There should be a family member/friend who you trust to have an extra set of keys to your house/apartment in case of emergency— emergencies happen more often than you can imagine—there ought to be somebody you can trust.
You should keep an emergency contact number in your wallet at all times, What if you were involved in an accident, and you were unresponsive, there would be nobody to call on your behalf. Don’t think it cannot happen to you. Tell your husband and children to follow these practices too. In fact, you should call a family meeting to discuss these issues.
Being too private can cost you your life. What if your neighbor saw someone suspicious standing on your porch or getting into your window etc. wouldn’t it be nice if they could call you? What if they heard you or a family member scream, wouldn’t it be nice if they had a telephone number to check to see if you were okay? Think. If a member got sick at church, in most cases, no one at the church would know who to call—folks are so private that they won’t even provide an emergency contact number to the church’s secretary.
Recently, two of my clients found a relative dead, one did not show up for church to perform a task that she does every Sunday morning, the church member became concerned and followed up on their concern, she had made her transition, they knew her family contact numbers. One went to the laundry room to wash her clothes, her son kept calling and could not get in touch with her, and he called her neighbor. Her neighbor had a key to her apartment, she entered the apartment, there were no on in the apartment but her purse and keys were on the table, her car was in her stall.
They decided to look around the apartment complex; they searched the laundry room and found her dead. Another one of my elderly clients’ niece called her and she did not answer the phone, she always answers her phone and is home most of the time. Her niece drove from far away to her home; she had a key to her home. When she entered, she found my client on the ﬂoor, she had been there probably a day or so, she died in the hospital four days later.
WE MUST DO BETTER WHEN IT COMES TO STAYING IN TOUCH. Think for a moment, if you were out with your friend/friends and one of them became ill or hurt and were non-responsive, would you have a contact number for him/her? This week, I emailed my friends a list of telephone number for my children, relatives in town and out of town. I asked my friends to do the same and I suggest you do it also.